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I’m pretty inexperienced when it comes to ethical non-monogamy (ENM). The more I play, the more I realize how true that is. My last relationship sparked curiosity and that lead to a season of experimentation. I finished my last post thinking that ENM wasn’t for me, but in reality, I keep swinging back to it. Understanding myself and figuring out which relational structure works for me has given me a lot to consider. Here are some field notes from my experiences. Personal Hist

All the time, people are calling out red flags. Red flags for unhealthy work environments. Red flags for the guy you went on a date with last night. Red flags for new friends. It’s definitely helpful to have the language and awareness to identify potential threats; however, I think it is equally important to have the language and awareness to point out the green flags too - the healthy behaviors that we want in our lives. What is a green flag? A green flag is a positive sign

This was the best breakup ever… There are certain things that have to happen that we don't love. For example: registering our cars,...

I first fell into ethical non-monogamy in Costa Rica. I developed feelings for multiple people at the same time and felt extremely confused. Walking with a friend one morning she asked, “Jaye, do you think you might be polyamorous?” The thought had never crossed my mind. Later that day, I started to do some research on polyamory and other forms of non-monogamy. This post is an introduction to the concept to discuss what it is, how to do it, and some personal stories. Carry on

It’s my last day before going to the ashram. I’ve written more in the last 2 days alone than I have in the last 2 months. Johan and I...

Right now, I feel like I’m about to explode. I’m in Rishikesh, India, and feeling utterly alone. Johan left to do some missions while I finish the work week and go to an ashram in nature. I’m counting down the days to go to that ashram (2 nights down and 2 to go).The first night alone, I was feeling alright. Johan left for his overnight bus towards an old friend and I called Liam, who had just sent me a message asking how India was. I went to sleep with a gentle headache and

Hey Liam! It finally happened… We said goodbye and it’ll probably be a while before we’re in the same country again. You know, I find our...